Have you and your romantic partner ever considered having a threesome? While the prospect can be exciting, it can also feel a little intimidating if you’re worried about the effects a third party could have on your relationship.
What is a threesome?
Since we’re all newbies here, let’s explore what a threesome actually entails for those who don’t get all of their sexual information from porn.
The first time I was introduced to what a threesome looked like was in the movie Wild Things. I was 18-years-old, on a movie date with a guy I had recently started dating. As he awkwardly fumbled for my hand, I sat there in awe watching Suzie Toller pour champagne over Kelly Van Ryan’s breasts as she straddled a very dreamy Sam Lombardo. I couldn’t believe the male character got to be with both of them or that they both got to be with him! 90s Matt Dillon, sigh…
While it was damn sexy and very much the type of scene many play out in their heads when they think about having sex with more than one person, threesomes are hardly a one-size-fits-all scenario. In reality, a threesome can be anything you want it to be. It can be a passionate hookup where you and your partner share a lover, never to see them again after the fact. Or, you can have an intimate relationship with a third person and even have feelings for them without breaking the sanctity of your primary relationship.
How threesomes can spice up your relationship.
The pandemic has wreaked havoc on everyone’s sex lives, particularly for couples. At first, it seemed like everyone had it made. When you’re trapped at home with your partner day in and day out, what else is there to do but have sex, right? Except that couldn’t be further from the truth, according to a study done by the Kinsey Institute that indicated lockdown was actually worse for couples and their sex lives. Between remote work and having the whole family home 24/7, it’s more challenging than ever for some couples to connect the way they would like to. Not to mention that many people get tired of seeing each other all day and all night. So yeah, if you feel like you need to spice things up, you’re not alone.
There are many ways to accomplish the aforementioned spice, and one of the most popular methods for NaughtyFriendGirl members includes having a threesome. A recent survey of AFF members shows that a whopping 41.7% of respondents have threesomes often, while 42.3% say they haven’t yet but would jump at the chance to do so.
Where to start.
The most crucial first step is having a conversation with your partner about boundaries and expectations. How far are you both willing to go, what do you want in a third partner, and what are your biggest deal breakers? Many couples agree upfront that neither partner is allowed to meet up with or speak to the third without the other present. Others say it’s ok as long as nothing intimate is done or discussed. No matter what you decide on, just make sure you’re both in agreement. Once you start having threesomes, check-in with each other to make sure everyone is happy and feelings haven’t changed.
Finding the perfect third.
The safest and easiest way to find someone to join you and your partner for a threesome is to look on sites like NaughtyFriendGirl. Once you decide what you’re looking for, the site allows you to browse potential partners by age, body type, location, and more. Once you find someone you’re both attracted to, chat with them via IM and go cam2cam so you can really get to know each other. This gives you a chance to make sure the chemistry is right before taking the next step.
Don’t forget to join the member interest groups and advice lines too. They’re both great places to meet experienced couples who can offer advice on how to keep your relationship in-tact and make it even stronger than it was before.
Still not ready? Try a virtual threesome!
Thinking about having a threesome and actually having one are two different things. If you and your partner still aren’t ready, then consider having a virtual threesome as a way to test the waters before you take the plunge. Many couples enjoy this method because it allows them to enjoy the fantasy, then simply turn their webcam off and go back to everyday life feeling satisfied. Sites like Cams.com offer hundreds of models to choose from, and you can browse by appearance, language, fetish, and more. This is an excellent option because you can ask for exactly what you want, when you want it, without having to worry about scheduling conflicts and, worse yet, hurt feelings.
